It’s Either Me, or Her

I have struggled with a multitude of things, one of them being the infamous “impostor syndrome” where I am afraid of fully expressing my true nature because, deep down, I don’t feel like I’m part of “that” tribe. I wanted to grow professionally and spiritually, but I was always so afraid of putting myself out there and I wasn’t consistent in my spiritual practices. But living in limbo had finally stretched me too thin — I had enough. There comes a time where you have to make a choice about the life you want to live, so I said to myself: You can either stay who you are, or you can become the person you are meant to be. Let me say it again with my chest: You can either stay who you are, or you can become the person you are meant to be! The two cannot coexist. Are you like me, even just a little bit? Do you want something, but aren’t doing everything you need to get there? Are you unsure? Here’s a helpful question: Are you where you want to be in life? If the answer isn’t a resounding YES in all areas of your life (love, finances, career, freedom), then let’s keep going.

First, let’s get one thing clear: you are perfect and whole as you are today. Breathe that in. Who you are has gotten you this far, and that is something to be grateful for and proud of. But like a snake that sheds its skin, there are parts of you that need to transform in order to produce the life you want to live. There is more of you that is waiting to be unveiled, and for some of us (me), even dying to be unveiled. Here are a few things that will guide you to living a life you love and deserve:

1. Gratitude: Begin with gratitude; everything should begin with gratitude. I even have a playlist that says, you guessed it: Begin With Gratitude. My mentor says that  the universe doesn’t notice your intention, but your attention. The universe, like your brain, doesn’t know the difference. So, if you are paying attention to what you don’t have, the universe responds with “Misery?! Okay, got it — let’s double up on the misery.” But if you focus on the things that you are grateful for, the universe will respond to that as well. Over the next few days, I encourage you to think about the things you can be grateful for. Even the smallest things aren’t really small things; the fact that you can breathe is something to be grateful for. It’s something you can’t even control, and most of us don’t even think about it, but it gives you life.
2. Vision Work: Spend time dreaming about the life you want. How fun is that? While it is fun, there is actual science behind this. Like I mentioned before, your brain doesn’t know the difference between reality and imagination. Your brain thinks in pictures, not words. If I say “dog” you see a dog, not “d-o-g” in your mind, right? So spend time imagining what your world looks like when you have finally reached your goals. What does it feel like? Who is around you? Who is benefiting from your dream? What do you look like? Dream like this as often as possible. Not only does it feel good, it allows you to get more specific about who you want to be and what you want to do. Your dream may even evolve, but you will never know its potential unless you spend time with it.
3. Actionable Goals: Now that you’ve spent some time envisioning what you want, how will you get there? You may be thinking: I haven’t a clue. That’s your human experience talking. Your heart knows exactly how to get to the dream. If it didn’t, you wouldn’t have been able to imagine it. So spend some time brainstorming ideas. Write down anything that comes to mind, even if it doesn’t make sense or seem possible. Then pick out the top 5 things you can do this week, and give them action dates and deadlines. You will be amazed at the difference between what you think you can do, and what you’re actually capable of.

These are a few of the fundamental steps for creating a life you love living and revealing your true Self. There is always more to uncover during your journey, but this is a great start to get you closer to your purpose. There will be times that you feel stuck, and that’s okay. But when you do, go back to what you’re grateful for and live there for a little while. Allow gratitude to lead you back to your vision and then your actionable goals. Repeat as necessary.

If you would like more tips, feel free to contact me here or email me at sparktheflow@gmail.com to find out how. Good luck on your journey! I believe in you.